Love

Today we entered uncharted territory and pushed the boundaries as we asked the girls and Mentonians to discuss love. So often love has been discussed in The Mentone Collective, but never has it been the starting directive. It became so evident through these conversations and reflections that love can and does mean something different to everyone. Here are some of the reflections.


"What happens when love becomes more than a word, more than the closing of a letter? Our language overuses such a wonderful word. How can we say we love God, but we also "love" ice cream and honey? Love means something different to everyone... Love can bring wondrous memories or painful regrets. Love is said so often but honestly do we even speak about it, do we ever unveil the true feelings in our souls? Love is so much more than just "love ya, see ya tomorrow." It is an emotion that excites our being. God created us to love and so many times we miss that, we are superficial. We never truly experience His love because we are scared; either scared of the unknown or scared because of our experience. Our world tells us to put up walls and to cower down, but God created us out of His love to love one another. We need to truly understand the amazing, all-powerful love Christ gives us and return that to others not by ourselves but by and through Christ alone. We try to do things on our own and we can't. The inventor of love calls us to follow His lead no matter how hard the person is to love, no matter how different they are from us and no matter if they return our love or not. The love that comes only from above is the reason for our existence. Why should we not bathe others in it and share the love we know to others? Struggles of this world may weigh us down but as Jesus says, "Take love, I have overcome the world." So in a sense, He is saying: "Take up love for I have overcome hate!"

-Catherine, 16

First Meeting with Campers: Second Term

Twenty-three new smiling faces came to the first meeting of second term’s Project Phoebe. Similar to first term, we talked about the vision of the Mentone Collective, as a film but also as conversations and intergenerational relationships. After sharing and discussing the story of Ruth and Naomi, we moved into the more technical details of how film and flip cameras can act as agents of this equal exchange. Here is a reflection of this first day.


"I love listening to people’s stories, but I don’t really tend to tell many of mine, so the “equal exchange” idea may be a little bit difficult for me, which I am worried about. However, I do think that listening is the greatest gift one can give and so I am excited to put that into action. My family has been trying this summer to think about “listening to understand” rather than just “listening to respond,” an idea that I both love and have trouble implementing in my own life. The theory is that you try to listen to really grasp and take to heart what the other person says, rather than just listening to be able to formulate a response. I think Project Phoebe will be a great time for me to work on this as well…I think I will have to step outside of my comfort zone, as Ruth did, and overcome my fear and shyness, but I cannot think of many better ways to do that than through this project… I am going to pray about it and just try to be open and flexible and await what God has in store for all of us."

-Bennett, 16

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Part I: http://vimeo.com/13102592
Part II: http://vimeo.com/13113441
Part III: http://vimeo.com/13282177

TMC Movie Screening

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Multicolored flags and fresh faces welcomed our twelve Mentonain guests to camp yesterday for The Mentone Collective screening. After reuniting on the lawn, all 225 campers packed the gym belting camp songs as we seated all our visitors. While many of our visitors do not frequent camp daily, most of them have at one point or another been extremely close to the Camp DeSoto community. Mimi Lanier, who has spent every summer on the mountain since she was a little girl, visited with her two granddaughters who are currently here. Everyone loved seeing Sarah Wilcox, who has been very close to the camp community for years as a camper, counselor, and staff.
Once all in the gym, Phil, the camp co-director, welcomed everyone, and then I was able to explain briefly the concepts behind the project: equal exchange, civic engagement, and inter-generational relationships. We settled into the wooden benches and enjoyed thirty minutes of Bonnie's saw, Mary Halley's bookmark, Hoyle's wheels, Maya's dream car, Taylor's photo, Charles' stories from swimming in Little River, and a Robbie's commentary on the abundance of bugs. From humorous to poignant moments, eight year-old girls and eighty-six year-old women engaged in the film as we all learned new things about each other and the mountain.
After the film, all the girl campers were eager to meet our movie stars as they made connections and pointed out their favorite parts of the film. The oldest girls in camp and the project members enjoyed a picnic dinner on the gym lawn as more stories flowed over Gazelle's delicious chocolate chip cookies. We all lingered on the lawn amidst the twinkling fireflies as Hoyle and Jane played their guitar and fiddle together, improvising off of each other. Our singers, Mimi and Evelyn, then joined in, creating a joyous organic mountain concert. At the ring of the bell for Camp's night activity of junior kickball, we said our goodbyes... until next month.

Check out the first part of the film: The Mentone Collective- Part I

Reflection

"Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From quiet reflection will come even more effective action." - Peter Drucker


An imperative part of the collective is reflecting on our experiences together and actively thinking about what stories we have heard or shared. Through reflection we gain perspective on the similarities and differences in our lives and how we might continue to bridge our lives in understanding and communication. It gives us the time to appreciate the experiences as well as the individuals who form our community.

These are several mixed media reflections the girls made after thinking about their experiences in The Mentone Collective thus far.

Vox Pop

...which means "Voice of the People."

On Saturday, all twenty girls and four counselors loaded onto the little white bus, with the loud chatter indicating the excitement to drive out of the large wooden gates and into the small town center of Mentone. To campers, Mentone remains a mystery since they only pass through it once at the beginning and once at the end of their summer on the mountain. At the single yellow blinking light the town burst from a seemingly antiquarian time period. The seasoned Hitching Post center houses many of the local specialized shops.
At each creak under our steps the weathered wooden beams, walls, and walkways seemed to share the many secrets of the town. Each stained glass door to the shops rested wide open, warmly beckoning us to wonder at their collection of intricate, handmade art and antiques. We split into small groups and meandered around the Gourdie Shop, Mountain Reality, The Deli, The Wildflower Cafe, and several other log cabin shops. Another set of girls enjoyed the hustle and bustle of the vibrant Mentone Market, which serves as the town center. Rich stories, heartfelt laughs, and genuine smiles were shared between the girls and Mentonians as we were able to get a taste of the broader community that we live in each summer.


Below are several reflections from counselors and campers:

"Today was great walking in and out of storefronts meeting the people who call Mentone home. I read a quote in a newspaper that said "Don't come to Mentone hoping to make a fortune, but once you've made your fortune, Mentone is a pretty grand place to live." I thought that perspective was really interesting because it is totally dependent on what you consider fortune. The community here might just be the fortune you've been looking for your entire life." - JP


"One lady I talked to emphasized the closeness and smallness of the town of Mentone. Also being from a small town, I was able to easily relate to this lady that I had only know for a few minutes. My favorite part was when this lady told us that the camper's mail each summer really help boost the economy of Mentone. This is my fifth year on the mountain and this thought would never have crossed my mind. It was an awesome feeling hearing a citizen say that I was a part of this community that I don't even live in for the majority of the year." - Haley

"I loved catching the people who wouldn't necessarily come to the MERF house or sign up for an interview, but who very much color Mentone and help make it the community it is. It was fun watching the girls timidly approach a person, but then get totally wrapped up in the person's stories." - Rachel

First Meeting with Campers

Today 20 fresh faces filled the MERF (Mentone Education Resource Foundation) house. We talked about the vision of The Mentone Collective and the importance of inter-generational relationships, ways we can break down agism, and equal community exchange. Our conversation evolved from looking at the story of Ruth and Naomi to video recording interviews. With two minutes left in our session, one girl asked, "So what is the point of recording these interviews with video cameras, rather than just listening?" I realized I had forgot to mention the ever so important detail that we are making a movie! Through the film we hope to keep all the treasured conversations and stories as well as be able to share with others our experiences and interactions as a collective.


Below are several responses from girls about the meeting: (The activity period at camp that girls spend at The Mentone Collective is called Project Phoebe)



"Project Phoebe started with two words: inter-generational relationship. I immediately thought it was going to be full of puzzles, card games, and dominoes. Thankfully there was a twist. Instead of entertainment we were going to establish a real relationship in the form of memories using Flip cameras. We are going to document their memories by asking questions about their life experiences. In turn the senior citizens are going to record our answers to the same questions. This was awesome, but it got better. The clips we film are going to be made into a movie, which is going to be screened to Mentone and all of camp. Project Phoebe is off to a great start. From that moment on, inter-generational relationship was so much more than just two words." -Janie, 16



"When it comes to the idea of "serving" I have always been conflicted. Part of me says, "God calls us to serve and care for those less fortunate than us." but the other part wonder, "what if they don't want my help? What if I make them feel inferior or belittled? What if they think that I think I'm better than them?" so when it came time to sign up for Phoebe I did so enthusiastically but the traces of those questions lingered in my mind. But as soon as Ashley started describing this opportunity as an "equal exchange," all my worries dissolved. This idea of "I give you something, and you give me something in return" was completely new to me. Sure, I had always heard the "I thought I was going to help them, but they taught me so much more," but I never understood it fully until now. I can't wait to begin documenting this experience using technology--previously a generational divider--as a generational-bridger. I know it will be such a meaningful journey and I am so blessed to be part of it!" -Anna Russell, 16


"In our first time going to Project Phoebe we looked at the first two chapters of the book of Ruth. From these two chapters we studied the relationship between Ruth and Naomi. This proves the love of God that can be shown in an "inter-generational relationship." In the beginning Ruth is giving to Naomi, but then Naomi begins giving to Ruth. This is an important part of a relationship--equality. It isn't just the younger one being a friend to the older one, but it goes both ways. This was such an awesome/eye-opening lesson to learn and I am pumped to go and visit with these seniors around Mentone. Hopefully I will help to teach them as much as I know that they will teach me!" -Taylor, 16